Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Bedrest, body rest and mental rest....How am I coping?

Well, here goes. I have finally found the urge to write again. Which is pleasant. I get self-satisfaction from it. It seems most people I follow can't maintain their blogs either. I enjoy reading philosophical blogs..or blogs from people I deem interesting. These people are one way one you meet them in person, and another way when they write. It shows the best part about their mind are not fully exposed to the world. Until they start to tap the keyboard (it used to be, 'pick-up a pen'..duh~). Some people just blog to tell people what they did, where they went and what they like to wear. I can't get myself to become interested with such blogs. It's hard to find those who blog, to tell you what they did AND tell you how they feel about doing it, and even sometimes add a spice add their thought to that activity, like how to improve it, or how it would look like if a different type of person did it. I guess, the blogs I follow are written by people who were interesting at one point of time, until they became too involved with their careers/jobs. Such a shame.

Just as an update. The letter from the doctor says, Munira has been put to bedrest until delivery. The sound of that seems lovely, but the till delivery part?? That's a good two months! I think I am in my 3rd week of bedrest. I had a plan to just enjoy my five days, have the occasional checks on my work email to support the team while I am away, and get involved in a weekly activity of going to antenatal classes. So far it seems to be working. I thought the first week was pleasant. Then the second week came I was getting sick of my living room and kitchen. I was sick of getting my hands wet cutting up ingredients to cook (yes I decided to cook everyday!) and at one point, I just gave up and told my husband..."I HATE cooking!! Please don't make me cook ANYMORE!!". That's funny because he never told me to cook but I actually volunteered. I could be good at it if I put my mind to it. Of course, with everyday hands-on, less disasterous results were achieved (reminiscing on the fried noodles that was waayyyy too black). And bless my wonderful husband, each and every meal I cooked was, in his words 'mmm sedapnya u masak!' (delicious). I could get an honest opinion verbally thus, I started to look out for body language and response. Some days, he would eat more, other days he would eat less. On the days he eats less, or finds it hard to finish it off, I would ask him, did you already eat outside, or what time did you eat earlier. If he didn't eat anytime before he went back, I would assume that meal was less than successful.

Well, now is the beginning of my 3rd week. I'm starting to feel calmer, and somehow time is flying by faster than before. I guess I have come to terms with the whole bedrest thing. I am sad that I am not allowed to go places. I probably could with extra care and the distance radius from wherever I am to the hospital is about 15 mins away. Though, I still don't dare to go anywhere that is not with my husband. Purely because, I can't imagine if I start bleeding or go into early labour and my husband is not around, my companion would be panicking and I would get them into trouble of getting me to the hospital ASAP. I don't really want to impose that responsibility to others. When I am at home, apart from the normal routine of cleaning and cooking, I guess I am picking up some work from office that needs to be done. Nothing major, just very minor email sending or clarification work. I am still not looking forward to these small tasks (my work is very stressful), but I guess, they give me some level of relief, that I could still be of help, even though I have left the office without preparation and warning. We'll see how that goes.

Moving on to some good news...my baby PUG is here ;) (well, my real baby is still inside me, I am talking about my new car!). Owh how exciting J. I haven't officially received her yet, but I have signed all papers and everything and she will be ready to be picked up in a few days time. Of course, I am nervous financially, new car, new baby, new house..I am jumping to the deep end! But I guess the excitement of getting it, is wonderful. I was just telling my hubby, we are blessed that our medical expenses are fully covered by our companies. Otherwise, we probably would not be able to maintain the same standard of living as we are now.

So how am I coping? Pretty well I think. I am glad I am still well to be able to write this entry, and let us see when the arrival of my wonderful baby boy will be J.

Thursday, March 03, 2011

The Year 2011 ..........transportation department

I'm saying goodbye to SS today..Oh no, I don't know why I feel so sad. I love that car, no matter how old, or how much noise it makes. It has served me a good I want to say 50k-km? My math is failing me. Well, when I received it, the ODO meter was around 150k+, now its 203+ or something. Ah, my journeys :) although mostly it's KL-Kerteh-KL.

I have this habit of growing on stuff. When I own something, hard for me to let go. I guess I have a little bit of a hoarder's characteristics. Not as bad as my mother, though. I do like my space. In this case, I am not hoarding, I am just emotionally attached.

I remember the first day I received SS. It was near Port Klang. I can't remember the exact date, but I do remember it was the night Pak Lah decided to increase the fuel price (at the time everyone was using Ron 97) from RM1.85 to RM2.70. And SS had just come out of the port, and of course the fuel tank was empty. I remember I went to Klang with Tze Yang and my hubby (or fiance at the time-or just boyfriend?). We met the guy at the road side, dropped him somewhere and went for dinner. The way we used to go to port Klang had two fuel stations on either side of the road, can you imagine the chaos and traffic jam that caused? It was people trying to fill their tank full! After dinner, I think Tze Yang went home and me and Aman to find the nearest fuel pump. Of course most of them had a mile long queue. I remember having to queue up for an hour or two and when I reached the pump, it was already like 11.30-11.45pm. I didn't intend to fill up any tanks then, but my car didn't have fuel to even make it back to KL! Since I was already at the fuel pump, I filled SS up, and I still remember till today, it came up to RM130!

That full tank only lasted 1 week, with me and Aman going to work together.....

And then, I moved to Kerteh.

I only got SS in Kerteh after 2 weeks of being there. The first two weeks, we had accomodation and transportation provided for us. Thus I didn't need the car. Then Aman came one weekend to leave the car and he got on the bus late that night. See that was the first time I was left alone with SS. I didn't know how to properly drive her, since I felt she was so long and big. But because I was left alone with her, it didnt take me long. SS' condition was really bad, especially in the tires department. I had to spend alot of money getting her in a good and safe shape to drive long distance. Mind you, it took me awhile to build up the courage to actually drive long distance!

SS gave me alot of adventures and served me well. The only two times she broke down, was not when she was with me. The only time she received a speeding ticket, was not when I was driving - though I still paid for it :[. One accident- sorry I broke you. But somehow, SS' number proved to be lucky too..hahah

Today, is the day that we decided to sell her off. I'm sorry dear friend, we have to do it. I have to make room for a new car and a new life. It was never meant to be forever, me and SS. It was great having SS around. I'm going to miss you.. Let's hope just not too much.

I feel so sad~


The Year 2011 ..two months down the line...

Actually published on FB Sunday, 27 February 2011 at 15:07

It is the end of February, and guess what, all hopes and dreams have all turned to be something else that is soo unexpected. Not sure what or how I feel about the whole situation.

(1) Transfer: rejected, reappeal, rejected, reappeal again ---> I can only pray it will eventually happen and I won't miss this opportunity

(2) Giving birth: pregnancy complications-placenta previa type II, normal delivery is almost out of the window, but it comes with its own surprise..Was admitted to hospital, now I am grounded to be at home, and I have more than 2 months till I am due! I'm the type of person who loves to work, but now I can't. Staying at home. only 2nd day. Nothing much to complain about.

(3) Spending maternity leave with Hubby: well at least one thing has a green light :)

(4) Have both my parents over : .............. its my parents.. I can't say much

(5) New car: hopefully in a few weeks time - but rethinking of necessity...I'm not gonna be needing to drive for a while...

(6) Go back to Sabah: If I am on long leave, and maybe I'd have to start using my annual leave, going back to Sabah might not be possible :| I am so sad~~

(7) Buy tickets to go to UK 2012: news maybe dad might wanna come back this year..and seriously this is not the time to think about holidays...I have surviving giving birth with minimal complications to go through first.

So this year, I'll spend ALOT of time at home. Its kind of a dream come true, with its own ups and downs. At the same time, I have so many loose ends that need tying up. Need to
-cancel my Astro - save money there
-clean fridge, there's milk in my fridge!
-bring my clothes back to KL - I only have enough for the weekend!
-bring my carpet, pillows, fan etc...whatever that can fit a car
-what about my letters??!!
-should I move out of my rented house? It'll be empty for a few good months, and rent is RM450/month! but what if I don't get transferred?? so confusing...

So there's probably a trip back to Kertih necessary, but I can't go...Need hubby and bro to go. Sigh~

I hope I won't be too much of an inconvenience to the people around me :[

I have to do this for baby :), don't want baby to have to come out when he's not quite ready yet... [elders say its because I'm too active, too much travelling, still going to site etc etc...really?? Only God knows why].

I can only pray to God that all will be well, in this confusing times...

The year 2011

Actually published on FB Friday, 14 January 2011 at 15:48

There are a few things that I am looking out for this year. See I am the type of person who always has to plan ahead before making a move. I would put in at least my whole year calendar in, and in further details, needs to be 1-2 months ahead of time. I plan my weekend trips and events and so on.

Well this year is different. When I sit down and try to fill in my calendar, I am unable to. I can't go beyond 2-3 weeks. I seriously do not know what is going to happen. These are the things ideally I wish to happen:

(1) Getting a job transfer to KL
(2) Give birth normally (or at least safely) in KL/Sabah
(3) spend my maternity leave with my baby and Aman
(4) Have both my parents over during birth of my baby
(5) Get a new car (sell off old car)
(6) Go back home to Sabah during Raya
(7) Buy tickets for holiday in UK in 2012 (when baby is over 1 yr old)

and these are the things that could still happen:

(1) I don't get transferred - stuck in Kerteh with baby and need plan to manage that
(2) I give birth at other places than preferred as I am still working in Kerteh
(3) Having to spend maternity leave away from Aman
(4) My parents couldn't come to witness the birth of their first grandchild
(5) Can't get my car out (so many factors)
(6) can't go back to Sabah for Raya (overspent my annual leave)
(7) All else fails, can't afford the holiday anymore -.-"

These are just two possibilities that I am writing out. I'm thinking of more possibilities (God knows how complicated I think and overthink things). But the best thing of all is, I am still remaining very calm....(despite the thoughts of labour pains flashing through my mind every now and then).

Due date, 3rd May 2011.